Friday, September 26, 2008

Questioning my love for James Bond

"...the attachement view of love was, and perhaps still is, radically out of line with our culture's estabilshed social and psychological ideas of adulthood: that maturity means being independent and self-sufficient.  The notion of the invulnerable warrior who faces life and danger alone is long ingrained in our culture.  Consider James Bond, the iconic impervious man, still going strong after four decades.  Psychologists use words like undifferentiated, codependent, sybiotic, or even fused to describe people who seem unable to be self-sufficient or definitively assert themselves with others.  In contrast, [British psychologist John] Bowlby talked about 'effective dependency' and how being able, from 'the cradle to the grave,' to turn to others for emotional support is a sign and source of strength."

- Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson, for my Marriage and Family Counseling class, and is actually one of the first "self-help" books I've ever read, if you don't count The Purpose-Driven Life.

crap.  it looks like I need to start looking deeper at why I think James Bond is so alluring.  

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